I understand entirely. For several years, for the sake of the kids, I put up with this kind of abuse,until I noticed she was being just as big a piece of shit to the kids, I put up with this kind of behaviour. Tonight, after years of abuse, I just old her I want a divorce, no really, I actually do mean that I want a divorce (in Australia we get 50/50 custody); and surprise, surprise she started crying and behaving like a civil human being. Too late! She punched me twice tonight because she was in a bad mood (not unusual because she thinks that domestic violence is only when men hit women). I held it together for my sons for years because I only wanted them to experience a loving family, but when this person constantly trashes me in front of them and then trashes them (they are great kids and don't deserve it) I will not be a wuss and let them be fucked up by her too.

Trust me mate, if your wife is as fucked as you described, you should leave her. The kids are the most important thing, make sure she doesn't fuck them up too (when my wife trashes me, she trashes me in front of the children and tells them not to be like me). Ironically, she usually winds up by saying "unfortunately, you are the perfect father". (Nevertheless, she tells the kids I am a loser, etc) . The boys can't constantly be told that the father they love is a loser, without serious psychological repercussions. They do love me and I am obviously a strong role model for them, this woman can only fuck them up and I won't let her.

My kids happiness means far more to me than my own. I after years of trying to save the family happiness by deferring to this immature piece of crap, who occasionally pretends to be a mother to them, I am going to strike a blow for my kids and get divorced. It will cost s ship-load, especially the lawyers, but the kids can grow up with their self esteem and know they don't have to stay in an abusive relationship when they grow up.

I actually feel bad for waiting so long, because I feel that the kids have wanted me to do this for some time. Ironically, they seem to have better recognised their mother's inadequacies and defective personality, some time ago. They love her, but they don't want to put up with her for long, they seem to be sympathising with me and "giving me the nod". I have to say, that the economic side of my divorce seems expensive (I have been economising the possibility for some time), but my time with the kids without that bitch is "gold" and I will never be responsible for her BS ever again. Furthermore, if she abuses the kids, I will also get 100 per cent custody, which will make the kids and me very happy (at the moment mama is someone they love but want to keep a distance from because she is so abusive).

Don't get me wrong, I am by no means a misogynist, there are plenty of male A-holes who are just as bad, but i=as your wife is just a passenger, putting up with her BS will only cause you and the kids more grief in the long run. If you are only holding on for the BJs, you are pathetic, they are not so hard to come by. Your kids come first! Man up and divorce the useless bitch!!

Cheers (a new life awaits)

JJ!

2. Your wife is right. About the cookie and everything else she brings up. :)

Up until now, we've had very age-appropriate question/answer sessions. In my innocence - I thought our next conversation was going to be about "Your body will be going through changes." I had NO idea that we'd skip that and go straight to Sex Ed 102. I live in fear each time I hear "Mom, I have a question." :) And she's slowing learning that the middle of the grocery store checkout line isn't the appropriate place to ask mom a question!

Wouldn't trade it for the world though!

Jason
The Cheeky Daddy

I can only imagine the pure stress of that car ride lol!!